Mystery Method - "Baby, we've got to slow this down.." | mysterymethod's Blog

"Baby, we've got to slow this down.."



Some people think that it's the man's job to escalate, and the woman's job is to resist. Instead, think of it as if it is the man's job to do both. If you are constantly thing to get more kino, like getting yards on a football field, it telegraphs far too much interest and deprives her of the hot/cold, push/pull energy that she finds so compelling.



When you pull in close to a girl, there's this tension in the air. At some point, if she feels too much discomfort, she will pull away. This isn't what you want — you don't want to condition her into a behavior of constantly pulling away from you. Rather, you want her conditioned to chase after you.

So, once that tension has been created, it's now time to push her away. This might be physically ("get off me, geez") or emotionally, such as using a backturn, false disqualifier or some other IOD. You might frame it as though you are the prize and you're not going to let her get anywhere with you tonight 'cause you have work tomorrow.